Madoka could have never been more kind to me when he adjusted to my strange behavior towards him in the initial days of dating. I actually never knew any Japanese custom, and was quite surprised by the fact that Japanese couples do not propose often to show their love. I thought that saying those three magic words, “I love you” often, would make feelings more intense in a relationship. But it’s so very different yet romantic here in Japan, and I could only discover this differently romantic aroma of love and feelings as I discovered romanticism with Madoka.
My love story in short
Let me tell you a little about myself first. I am Matisa from Finland, and I was posted in Japan by my MNC. A job posting in an advanced industrial region like Japan was enough to bloat me with fresh air and energy. I was fully enjoying my time here, and in those days, I met Madoka in a restaurant. He was with his friends, and I, with my colleagues. When I saw him, we had a little group chat, and then one meeting led to another till we started dating seriously.
They wait to say I love you
It happened in those days that I often stated my love for him by saying “I love you” as and when I felt like, though he never did tell me that he wanted to marry me. Strangely enough he gave me queer looks, and often told that he would need more time to decide on that. I was clueless each time what he wanted to say, as I never wanted a commitment from him on marriage or living. But he always reinforced about this point when I stated my feelings.
Well it was then that I slowly understood how deeply this feeling and expression of “I love you” is considered in Japan. Couples would not say something so serious unless they are committed and normally it’s a boy’s job to propose. However now I know the Japanese way, and am very satisfied with Madoka.